Help Teens Find Authentic Satisfaction: Trust Them

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 “You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.”- Galileo Galilei How can we trust our young adults when we never learned to trust ourselves? A NEW PARADIGM OF LEARNING Most of us were raised to believe that parents are meant to guide young ...Read More

Let’s Speak the Simple Truth: It’s an act of political and emotional healing.

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The frequency of mass shootings in the US is directly related to the absence of reasonable gun laws and other policies which would dramatically reduce the number and type of guns in civilians’ hands. That’s a simple truth. If we complicate this simple truth by blaming the mental health of ...Read More

The Education Within: How do teens and parents balance the culture of expectation with self-knowledge?

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Education is not the filling of a pail but the lighting of a fire. —Yeats What does it mean to light a fire rather than fill a pail? To start, our culture, its educational tenets, and the messages of unbridled capitalism promote pail filling. The focus on products (homework, SAT scores, ...Read More

Your Teen Is Not You

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A well-meaning dad in my practice came into my office at his regular time, his eyes wide, perched at the edge of the couch. He wanted to share something; he could hardly keep it in. “I realized something this week,” he blurted breathlessly. I waited, wondering which of the many ...Read More

Six Deep Breaths Back to Connection With Your Child

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10:15 p.m. on Monday night. It feels like Friday already. My 11-year-old, a writer who gets her “inspiration” around 9:00 p.m. every evening (which feels like the middle of the night as I’ve been up since 5:30 a.m.)  was chattering in bed. Suddenly, happy moments from the day turned to a ...Read More

Three Transformative Strategies to Empower You And Your Teen

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As the Dalai Lama once said, “Those who drive us the craziest are our best teachers.” While research and your grandmother agree that human happiness depends on the quality of our closest relationships, maintaining that connection with our teen can be challenging. What I have found is that our teens are mirrors ...Read More

The (Power) Struggle Is Real: Forging Harmony With Your Teen

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As a psychologist practicing for almost thirty years, I’ve discovered three key principles that resolve power struggles between parents and teens: Know thyselfCultivate responsivenessNourish the relationship First: know thyself by healing your past wounds. Fear is normal for parents. Your teen ends up in the ER for alcohol poisoning and you want to ground him for ...Read More

Is Your Tween Ready For A Smart Phone?

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Why did Bill Gates wait until his daughter was 14 to give her a smartphone? Maybe he intuited what some research now shows: a 2017 study of over half a million eighth through 12th graders found that teens who spent considerable time on screens (two or more hours a day) compared to ...Read More

Essential Tips For Thriving In Your Relationship With Your Teen

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An expert on parent-teen relationships (and their healing power!) shares expert advice on communicating and thriving with your teen Chloe was a precocious 14-year-old who, while doing well in her competitive private school and engaged in an array of impressive extracurriculars to stay on the competitive track, was also “packed ...Read More

Are You Clashing with Family Over the Current Presidency?

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Are You Clashing with Family Over the Current Presidency? Healing Family Bonds In Polarizing Times By Christa Santangelo, PhD   Rob and his teenage son Peter’s relationship was threatened over the recent US presidential election. Dad was unable to hear anything his sixteen-year-old son Peter had to say about Peter’s ...Read More